Bereavement Blog: A teacher of death

Bereavement Blog: A teacher of death

4/25/17

Struggling with the loss of a loved one can be difficult. Don’t go the journey alone, others can help through this great time of need. You can learn how to manage the stressors of loss through the creative arts process. This is a blog of that creative journey. 

Bibliotherapy poem: “I have to attend a death class”

 

I am a teacher of Death

I am told.

 

Yet I sleep on the edge

all snaggled up.

 

How do you fix

that?

 

How do you fix- preparing to die

And dying

And dead?

 

I stare at sudden empty space

Shaking.

 

I remember a hug

And rushed alone-ness.

Then nothing.

 

 

There are ways

Many paths

Changing

Healing

Even destructive

Ones

When learning to grieve.

 

I prefer the unexpected garden.

A life garden of sorts:

A process of grieving

Sub-conscious landscaping

In between unnoticed spaces of bittersweet memories.

 

Our senses, our bodies, our connections to the earth and the plants and animals and-

creativity

Can lead the way.

 

Or not.

 

It begins out of control

Bits of growth

Where none has been before.

 

What’s more,

You’re not even sure if seeds planted will live or die.

 

Sometimes the best laid plans

Fail and flower anyway.

 

It feels ok

To feel,

Ok?

 

To develop a relationship

With the unknown.

Without judgement

Without telling me what to do

Or how to think

 

You walk and plant and create and cry and laugh and are quietly loud with me-

Being here-

Now.

 

And for that

I am grateful.

Bereavement group is a free non-discriminatory community support group for all ages which meets weekly to support each other through the process of loss. It is co facilitated by Ben Fox LCMHC and Jess Stout MSW. It is a confidential safe space which meets in the Artistree Farmhouse in South Pomfret,  Vermont. No artistic skills are required. All images/statements below have permission to be viewed/printed here only.  For more information, please contact Ben Fox LCMHC at 802 779 1524 or expressivetx@gmail.com

Thank you to all who take the time to share their process above. This blog was created in response to your request to be able to share your healing process with those who are unable to be present. I thank you and your families for your support and overwhelming kindness. - BWF

 

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Ben Fox LCMHC

Ben Fox is a Licensed Mental Health Clinician in the state of Vermont, an Expressive Art Therapist, & an Community Minister associated with the North Universalist Chapel Society of Woodstock, VT